Encourage And Invest Time Into Your Child’s Development
Competition is the effective ability to achieve the proposed goals. Raising competent children is one of the biggest challenges parents face. Competent people are able to observe what a given situation requires and proceed accordingly without losing focus. They usually act with feeling, even with inspiration, but they do not allow emotions to make them lose their way.
When it comes to adults, competence is an essential requirement for professional and personal success. Therefore, forming competent children is the first step to help children in their internal development.
Children with this aptitude are able to handle emotional challenges successfully. They can address obstacles appropriately based on their age and stage of development, manage the situation, and emerge with more confidence once overcome. In other words, they address internal and external difficulties to remain focused on the task and achieve the proposed objectives. But how can you nurture children’s abilities and help them go further? What if they are struggling in certain areas?
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Let them do things for themselves
Parents must learn to control our own impatience. From an early age we can let our children investigate and explore freely. That does not mean that we do not monitor them or help them if the situation requires it. It is simply to accompany them and let them do.
Increase your confidence with small challenges
Allowing children to tackle some challenges with our help is very positive if we want to train competent children. These small successes will increase your confidence level. Researchers in emotional development call scaffolding the support given to the child to complete a task or achieve a goal that he/she would not otherwise achieve. The fact that they have our help in taking on these challenges will let our children know that help is always available if they need it. If they need some type of therapy because of injury or illness, speech or therapy, then this should be prioritised. Pediatric Speech Therapy could help.
Empathize instead of evaluating
When we brag about our children’s achievements in front of others we are making them think that unless they are bright and precocious, they are a disappointment. These attitudes can generate in the child the need to impress those around them. The problem is that it is not something that they always have control over and they get frustrated. Placing children’s achievements highly makes them feel evaluated, overly concerned about their performance, and even refusing to try new things. If we want to encourage our children, parents can empathize with their emotions when they overcome a challenge by themselves; how proud we are that they don’t give up easily; and encourage them not to give up when things get tough.
Value efforts and not results
Excessive praise can impair a child’s development. Don’t lose perspective. We must understand that even though they have done something incredible, the important thing is that they keep trying to do things, practicing, improving and learning that hard work pays off.
Mistakes are part of the learning process and always rescuing children can prevent them from learning important lessons. As parents we can help them every step of the way to organize their ideas or their work even though they should do it.
Encourage: optimism, responsibility and persistence
We must reduce the number of times our child receives the message that their actions do not matter. Competition and dominance emotions have a lot to do with power. All children experience reasonable limits on their personal power, but the older they are, the more likely they are to see themselves as capable. Developing further is really a mixture of confidence, resourcefulness, perseverance, mastery, emotional intelligence, and other traits. Children who consider themselves competent feel capable and powerful but we shouldn’t focus solely on this. They are more likely to be resourceful, believe in themselves, attempt tough challenges, and show greater resilience in the face of life’s setbacks. Children who come to this later in their childhood are equally as important and valued.
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Manage frustration and help bring out the best in your children
Practice makes perfect. Teaching them to persevere when the going gets tough is a tool to avoid becoming discouraged and frustrated at the first setback. Things take time and children come to things at different times. Some children in the class may be able to read books competently at six and others may not until they are eight. It depends on the time and effort put in outside the school hours, too. Frustrations are inherent to growth and doing things for them is not good in the long run. Offering them our empathy in the face of difficulties is a vital factor for the balanced development of their ability to overcome.
